Tag: loss

I don’t know what to say…

Following on from my recent series on Saying Goodbye, I thought I’d look at the situation from another perspective, that of the friends and family of the person who has been bereaved.  So often in this country, dying and grief are taboo subjects and so they’re rarely talked about in general conversation.  This means that…
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Saying goodbye – what I’ve learnt

So, the messages I’d like to share from this experience are: This time of lockdown has given us a whole new appreciation of connection.  I encourage you to never take this for granted and to be grateful for all those who bring light and joy into your life. Remember to treasure the time you have…
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Saying goodbye – adjusting to being without her

Everywhere I turn there are memories of her, and I keep finding more bits of ‘kitty paraphernalia’ – who knew one small cat could have so many things?!  They include: her taurine supplement, blankets, assorted toys that keep turning up in random places around the house, food and treats, cat flap and step, and the…
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Saying goodbye – returning home

We brought our precious girl home with us again and put her in a box with a couple of her blankets and some toys until the next day when Tim made her a lovely wooden coffin and dug a grave for her by her favourite sunny step where she used to sit on summer evenings…
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Saying goodbye – precious times

Over the last couple of months, I had noticed that Kali seemed to suddenly appear much older.  Last summer she’d had a burst of new energy and had regularly gone out hunting on the land around our house.  She was much too successful for my liking, but it was heartening to see that she was…
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Saying goodbye – the last weeks

I chatted with Kali about how I was feeling, asking her forgiveness for the times when I was sad and worried about losing her.  Doing this helped me to realise that feeling upset was only serving to rob me of the gift of this time together and so, for the most part, I was able…
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Saying goodbye – Kali Kat

Kali loved to spend time outdoors, either exploring or sitting in the sunshine and enjoying its warmth.  During the winter she didn’t go out as much, as she hated the cold, and instead enjoyed the odd game of chase to keep up her hunting skills. She loved to be up at a height where she…
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Saying Goodbye

This is one of the hardest pieces I’ve ever written, and yet I want to reach out to anyone who might find themselves in the same position, to say that although you probably feel very alone at the moment, please know that there are others out there who care, and who will understand at least…
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